He hide it from me because he said he loved me and didn't want to hurt me. But is it really because he would have lost everything? I confronted the slut. I yelled and screamed at her and told her how much of a horrible person she is. I want her to move far away, but she will always be around. He doesn't understand why I expect him never to speak to her again. He thinks I am being silly. The fact he formed feelings of lust for her is what hurts the most. He was never the cheating type. I am so shocked. He stopped the kiss, it never went any further but then again he didn't tell me for months and he was still in contact with her.
She is so much better looking then me and I feel that I am the problem. Every time he see's an attractive girl he says hot stuff. I want him to look at me again and remember how beautiful I am. I do so much for him and I love him more then anything. I don't want to separate but I don't know if I can ever trust him again. I feel so betrayed.
Please help me - has this happened to you? How did you forgive your husband?
So sorry that you are going through this :( I don't have any advice just sending hugs.
ReplyDeleteHow awful for you. I haven't gone through anything like this, but I imagine you're feeling just sick.
ReplyDeleteThere are so many wrong things about this, but the inappropriate comments when out and about show a complete lack of respect (aside from the kiss obviously!). HE is the one with the problem. Not you.
Would you consider going to see someone together, a counsellor perhaps?
Sending you support and lots of hugs. x
He was crying and in tears when I finally came home. We had a very LONG talk. He said he didn't want our marriage to end and this is why he said nothing. He knew it would be the end of the relationship. I said we will see how we go but honestly it's not the same. I haven't been able to kiss him or make love with him yet. I don't want to because I am afraid she will be fully in my head. I am trying to forgive him, but I can't sleep, I can't eat, I burst into tears all the time now. I wake up and have dreams of her kissing him. It's only been a few days, but the feeling isn't going away.
ReplyDeleteI know he truly loves me, I have seen this is the last few days, but this betrayal is so hard to forgive. He's agreed to not speak with her unless he has to do so. I have been checking his phone secretly everyday. I am getting very funny like that. I just don't trust him yet. I really love him, but I have never hated anyone as much as I hate her. I want to kill her! I am so angry at her and wish I had punched her.
Could you forgive a kiss to save your marriage??